“Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.” (Proverbs 13:24 NLT)
A well known proverb. Spare the rod, spoil the child. This translation puts a slightly different spin on it.
But this isn’t PC. These days we should surround children with love. Positive praise, it’s called. Praise the good behaviour and ignore the bad.
I have seen it used to good effect. But it doesn’t work with all children. So,e children want your attention. They NEED your attention. They will try anything to get that attention.
That might be a tidy room that you will need to praise them for, but that’s unlikely. In their view of the world, it’s the immediate act that gets an immediate result. Knock over a drink, immediate attention. Even if that attention is a cloth and a shouted command to mop it up!
So how do you discipline a child who thrives on attention? Endless hugs? Well, you can try but that will probably result in an angry child and lots of stress.
There is no simple answer, I’m afraid I can’t summarise this blog.
When I find an answer, I’ll let you know.